Wednesday, January 16, 2013

just the way you are


Mike absolutely loves techno music. It's his biggest way to de-stress. When we were dating/friends/whatever we were, he use to send me texts of lyrics. We were driving in his car one day and he said the sweetest thing to me that I will never forget. The song "Just the Way You Are" by Bruno Mars came on and he said it was written about me. You're probably thinking that's the cheesiest thing you've ever heard. But coming from Mike, it meant everything to me (even though looking back he was probably joking haha).

There is so much competition and comparison in our lives. We look at people's clothes, trips, money, physical appearance, talents, jobs, and the lists go on and on. It's easy to be unsatisfied with what we have and want more, and even on occasion want other people's lives... For example, I love new clothes. What girl doesn't?! I'm the first to say I love looking at fashion blogs and see what fun outfits people are wearing and coming up with. But it made me realize something. Over Thanksgiving I was talking to my sister about what we wanted for Christmas. During the conversation, I kind of realized that even if I got clothes for Christmas, I was still going to want the "new" thing a couple weeks later. There is always going to be something newer and better that I see someone wearing and wish I had it. We can never be satisfied with what we have... Or maybe I'm the only one! And don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with getting new clothes [I still got some for Christmas] but I just think in general my thought-process with the whole thing has gone way overboard and I need to tone it back to being happy with what I have. While it's always fun to look,  I'm happy with the things :)

There is a difference with being unsatisfied with our lives and wanting to improve, to grow and to learn - which we should all be trying to do. No one is perfect. But each person is beautiful and unique in their own way. We should all take a line from Mr. Bruno Mars and realize "you are amazing, just the way you are" (no matter how cheesy it may sound).


28 comments:

  1. I love that quote! Thank you for sharing.
    http://shannonhearts.blogspot.com/

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  2. Love this, reminds me of the Dove slogan (I think? ;))..."love the skin you're in"

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  3. I LOVE your last sentence - So many people confuse wanting change with needing a little improvement. Thank you for writing that. I'll have to remember that the next time I complain. . .

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  4. This is so true! I am so guilty of looking at fashion blogs and wanting the lives/clothes/bodies of the bloggers I admire. Infact, when I started my blog, I really wanted it to be a fashion blog. However, after I took a little break from blogging, I realized that fashion blogging is just not for me. It was such a relief to stop being something that I am not.

    I also love what you said about being unsatisfied and wanting to improve. In the past, I think I was very unsatisfied. I used to make these mile long lists of how I was going to completely change and be the best possible person ever. But expectations like that are so unrealistic. I am beginning to learn that its the little changes and improvements that are what really matter, and what really add up. And this post just helped solidify that even more.

    Thanks so much for these words of wisdom! (:

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  5. such a good point that I often find myself realizing! especially with shopping, I am constantly thinking I need something new. I don't necessarily always buy it, but I can dream!

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  6. So true...there's a difference between being unsatisfied and wanting to improve!

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  7. Love that quote! It's one of my favorites. Thanks for stopping by my space and for following along. Following back!

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  8. i adore the sentiment behind bruno mars's song--it's so wonderful.

    thanks for stopping by my blog!
    www.insparisian.com

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  9. aww i love this!!!
    ps you were such a beautiful bride!! what temple if i may ask? :)

    ps following!

    The DayLee Journal

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  10. Love this. It's so true! I've been thinking a lot about this recently. I was following a certain girl on blogger & twitter. I just had to unfollow her because she was constantly talking about spending a ton of money with her husband & going on & on about her new outfits and this & that. At first I was intrigued because I love seeing new fashion & hearing about people's trips. But then I came to realize that I was constantly comparing my life to her life. My life is wonderful & I'm happy just the way I am & I wanted the horrible thing of comparing to just go away. I am so happy with my life and how things are going. You need to be sure and always stay positive! And comparing yourself to other people is not a good thing to do.

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  11. his comment to you was just about the cutest thing ever.

    and i completely identify with this (: the art of being satisfied is a hard thing to master.

    ps: love your wedding pictures!

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  12. Thank you for the comments on my blog!! Your story about your husband is absolutely adorable. And I completely agree with everything else 100%. Your blog is wonderful, I'm excited I found you and to be following along now :)

    xo inventedromance.blogspot.ca

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  13. love this!! following along now :) thanks for stopping by my blog...you are more than welcome to follow along as well ;)

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  14. I love this song and I totally agree with "Comparison is the thief of joy". I am putting my own story into this but I definitely know what you mean.

    P.S. You are too pretty!

    xo
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  15. The first time I heard this song I loved it! Great post. Thanks for commenting on my blog! I am so glad I could find yours. I will definitely be following you on bloglovin. xx. McKenna Lou
    www.lynnandlou.blogspot.com

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  16. Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog! I just read your love story! You two are so cute! So happy for you!! I am excited to keep following! ~Sarah Little Penelope Lane

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  17. Yes you are right, I think we all get a bad case of "Keeping up with the Jonesitis" now and then.

    Ali of:

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  18. Hello!

    Great post and song, I love Bruno Mars. Thanks for commenting on my blog and now I'm following you also:) Enjoy the rest of your week!


    Carissa
    Lillies & Silk

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  19. This is so true. I love that quote. And I love your insight on this.

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  20. I just LOVE this post! Sometimes I have to keep myself from looking at fashion blogs because I find myself wanting what I don't have. Instead, I'd like to be satisfied with what I do have and focus on the things that matter. Thanks for sharing this :) By the way- I'm new to your blog and love it! New follower and I can't wait to read more. I hope you'll come stop by and visit mine! xo
    LIFE AS A WIFE

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  21. I am SO glad that you stopped by Laurenrebecca.com because I've found you and I think your blog is a place I'll be reading more often!! LOVE your wedding dress. Caught my eye right away....and this post....made me follow you back. Lyrics are such a powerful thing! I love a good love song. You are right on here, dear.
    xoxo

    lauren

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  22. I have to remind myself of this constantly. I've found it to be easier as I've gotten older.

    Thanks for stopping by Good Girl Gone Wife!

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  23. Love this post, I have been especially grateful for my blessings as of late as well. It is always to remember all this things Heavenly Father has given us! Love the blog you are stunning!

    xoxo

    girlandthegeek.blogspot.com

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  24. ahhh that song! it will always be a very special song to me. we sang it to the orphan girls we taught in india last summer.

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